Completely unbeknownst to me, She’s Not the Man I Married is now listed at amazon.com. No cover image yet, almost nothing at all yet, but there it is, and yes, you can pre-order it if you’d like.
That said, if you’re in the NYC area, you can get a signed copy in March when I’m doing publicity. Or in Philly in April. (Those are my only confirmed post-pub date events, so far.)
Five Questions With… Update
I’ve been doing the Five Questions With… feature on this blog for over a year, with 38 interviews so far (the first with Gwen Smith on 7/27/05, & the most recent with Kate Bornstein, and will probably slow down a bit, maybe to a monthly interview or as they come at me.
Make-up Assignment
As if to makeup for the week that I didn’t manage to post a Five Questions With… interview last time, this week an interview with Kate Bornstein, which is more like “Eight Questions With” than Five.
So there. Enjoy.
Secret Lives of Women show
Tonight the cable channel WE (Womens Entertainment Network) showed an episode of their regular show Secret Lives of Women – an episode about women who are married to crossdressers. I was interviewed for the show but we decided Betty and I were too “out” to really be classified as “secret” anymore. I was happy to hear that Peggy Rudd would be on, instead.
That said, the show did recommend My Husband Betty (along with Peggy’s books) as further reading. But, it looks like something has gone haywire, since the amazon.com links for My Husband Betty and for Peggy’s books are super-wonky.
If anyone who saw the show found this site as a result, you can still get My Husband Betty at Barnes & Noble online, or at Powells.com, another online bookstore, and I’m sure amazon.com will figure it out shortly.
If you did come here as a result of the show, do look around. There’s a selection of things I’ve written for the blog about relationships vis a vis crossdressing/trans issues, and of course there is a forum just for partners on our message boards.
Please Donate
If you can, please donate to help us keep doing what we do. Thanks to all of you who have contributed in the past.
The King Retires
The boards are back up.
However, during this last tech ‘vacation’ from the boards I’ve realized that I’m just burnt out on moderating them. Although I’m putting them back up, I won’t be as actively involved in running them anymore. Mostly I will be posting on my blog, instead. I am inviting a few new people to become moderators, as well.
I will still be in the background, of course, and would love it if people would flag me when things get difficult. That is, if you want the boards to continue to be interesting & intelligent, do remember to let me know when something has gone a little ‘funny’ so that I can intervene before too many feelings are hurt.
Otherwise, thank you all for participating, and enjoy them!
Speaking at Purdue
I’m excited to announce that I’m going to be speaking at Purdue University @ Calumet this coming October 27th. The talk will be about ‘Trans Identities and Cultural Politics’ and is part of an ongoing Diversity Advocacy series they’ve been doing. There’s more information on their website, but I do hope those of you who are anything close to Indiana will be able to make it! I’d love to see some familiar faces, of course.
I’m planning on traveling through Chicago, of course, so if there’s a group in/near the city that’d like to have me come speak, let me know.
Boards are Down
Due to circumstances beyond our control, the boards are down. It may be a while. We’ll get them back up when we can. Sorry for the inconvenience.
Had a Little Party
I threw myself a tiny little party this past Saturday night – actually my sister hosted it, at her house – just to celebrate having finished the book. I had realized earlier in the week that there will be ongoing things to do concerning the book – copyediting to check, proofreading changes to accept or reject, blurbs to get, etc – and that if I didn’t mark the occasion, I’d hang around in a kind of limbo not getting onto other projects and finding new clients and the like.
So I threw a little party to thank the small cadre of folks who 1) helped with the book or who have generally been supportive of my writing, and 2) live around these parts. Like my sister and brother in law, for starters, and Betty (whose past couple of weeks living with a writer under deadline have *not* been the most fun she’s ever had), and others like our friend Angela, who is known to speechify about the importance of art & particularly mine; but also my friend Guy, who really is terrifically bored with how much I talk about gender but lets me prattle on anyway; Johanna, who read a chapter & whose “the girl one” story provided me with such a hugely useful way of thinking about gender in queer realtionships; my friend Doug who read the whole of the book and provided enthusiasm and good questions; Caprice, who is just nice *all the time* & of course helps with the boards; but most especially I wanted to thank Donna, who all this time has been reading my manuscript for me & providing me with an incredibly thought-provoking editing job, lawyerly re-writes, research data, objections, questions, and insights.
I had a really lovely time. I remember looking up at some point & realizing that all of my guests were people who I’d have long conversations in kitchens with at other people’s parties and events! Quite brilliant conversationalists, all of them. I overheard snatches of conversation about everything from the Pet Shop Boys to Margaret Atwood novels, from Divine’s movies to New Testament theology. I’ve been in a good mood since then, and feeling quite content with my lot in life just now.
So: thank you.
More thank yous tomorrow, to a ton of other people who were helpful but who either 1) couldn’t make it, or 2) don’t live ’round here.
Please Donate
If you can, please donate to help us keep doing what we do. Thanks to all of you who have contributed in the past.
I should also mention that starting August 2nd, I will be more available to do consulting or coaching, so if you’ve been putting off talking to someone – whether it’s a crisis or you’d just like to have an hour of my time, uninterrupted – now is a good time to do so.