It seems we’ve made it to podcast… a Detroit-based podcaster and blogger reviewed My Husband Betty recently (and her advice to people near death is very, very funny, & unfortunately, very close to the mark for many people). You can listen online or download the mp3.
Check it out here.
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TransNations Columns: Significant Others
The TransNations column that Jake Anderson-Minshall wrote about me got picked up by another LGBT paper – this one in Ohio but also online, called Outlook News.
Go to week 2/16/06, then page 10. Then zoom a few times to make it legible.
Messier Bedroom
Last April, sex columnist Josey Vogels forwarded me a letter from a 21 year old women who was turned on by her boyfriend dressing in women’s clothes, and I got a shot (for a day) at being a sex advice columnist.
It turns out the same woman recently wrote to Josey to thank her for the advice:
“Last year I wrote to you, worried about my sexuality because the only time I had ever orgasmed with a guy was while my boyfriend was dressed as a french maid. You offered advice on a couple of possibilities that didn’t involve me necessarily being gay. Through a little experimenting we found that yes I do think my guy is really sexy when he’s my girl. Part of it is that it’s kind of sweet that he would do it to indulge me, part of it is he makes love entirely differently when he is wearing panties. We’ve started channeling that into our regular sex and I am now glad to say that he gets me off regularly even without the lingerie. I figured once that happened we had seen the last of the dressing but for Valentines day (which we celebrated last weekend) he rented a red maid’s dress and waited on me hand,foot and other areas too. It was so sweet. Just wanted to say thanks for saving my love life.”
And I’m just pleased as punch! See? There *are* women out there for whom crossdressed men is a genuine turn-on. Keep looking, CDs – you never know when you might find one.
I’m also really pleased because after my recent Trans Sex and Identity workshop at TIC, someone who’d caught the workshop told me that he and his partner had great sex as a result of what I’d talked about. There really isn’t a better feeling in the world than hearing something like that.
New Site
I wanted to introduce my new author website, helenboydbooks.com. The sidebar to the right was just getting too cluttered, & when I thought about adding info for the new book, I just decided it’d be better to have a new site for that stuff.
I’m pretty impressed with myself – no, Betty did not create it; I did. Betty will probably put together a schmancier site at some point, but for the meantime, it’s got all the info it’s supposed to.
TG Life Interview
I was interviewed for this month’s TG Life – in the Celebrity Spotlight.
Do check it out.
… I think a lot of transpeople want to be attractive for being women or men, which is fine, but I think those of us who love you all tend to love the transness itself. Not the issues, not the narcissism – but the very fact of someone who transcends or combines or expresses more than one gender.
Trans Partners Presentation
I’ll be doing a presentation tonight, Thursday, March 2nd, for the TransNYC group. I’ll focus solely on partners, to give these scholars a little bit of an idea of the innumerable variables of trans relationships.
Why I'm Leaving the IFGE Conference Earlier Than Planned
Wolfpit – by Glyn Maxwell
A World Premiere of an Unforgettable Play With A Post Show Discussion, Catered Reception and Opening Night Cast Party
Please Join Us For This Opening Night Gala Event
Theatre Three, 311 West 43rd Street, (between 8th and 9th Ave.)
Friday, April 7, 2006
Curtain 8:00 PM, Tickets $60
Tickets Now On Sale Click Here
Or call 212-352-3101
(To buy tickets for other performances of the play, click here instead.)
Exhausted
First: If anyone who was at TIC (who we met or didn’t meet) has any requests for resources, you can 1) use the search box at the upper right, or 2) email me.
I don’t know if I’m getting old or what, but every time I get back from a conference I feel a little more tired than I did the previous time. This TIC was a great conference – a good collection of people, interesting workshops, familiar faces.
As it was last year, working with Jill Barkley was a real pleasure; this year, we ran a pretty intense trans relationships workshop, which was not just transgender but trans-generational. We both ran trans partners workshops the previous day, right before which I did my trans sex and identity workshop – which is always a pleasure to do, and always slightly different than the way I did it before. I’ve been asked more than once now if I have a copy of that workshop on DVD, so I’m going to figure out how to do that so I can make it available. (Once I shake off this sleepy, sleepy feeling, that is.)
It probably didn’t help that we went right from the 6 hour drive home with DJ and Lizzy to Tristan’s House of Ass party, but we did get *great* goody bags (supplied by Babeland.com, if that gives you a hint)!
Backdoor Betty
If we can make it back from Burlington on time, Betty & I are going to the release party for Tristan Taormino’s House of Ass. We love Tristan, and not just for naming a porn flick House of Ass, either.
You can even watch the trailer for House of Ass on your iPod! (Or on your computer, though this is definitely not work-friendly).
It’s an odd life, some days, but we enjoy it.