Stardusted

Betty & I went to see Stardust for its opening last weekend because Neil Gaiman asked us to (not personally, of course, but via his blog) and we both really enjoyed the movie. It’s rare for me to like a movie – I find most comedies too mean-spirited, most romances too gendered, and since I don’t like movies all that much in the first place (which is something like sacrilege or anti-American to admit, even) as either entertainment or as an art form, Betty doesn’t convince me to go to many. I don’t find most of them deliver even $10 worth of entertainment.

But Stardust, I loved. I’ve long been a fan of Gaiman’s writing, for the fantasy, the sheer power & reach of his imagination, & the breadth of his research, but what I usually like about writers above all else is voice. You know, I was weaned on C.S. Lewis. I like a narrative voice that tells me a story in a personal way, and what comes across in Gaiman’s writing is not just a kind of bemused gentleness, but intelligence, a lot of compassion, & a kind of sly earnestness and respect for his characters that all adds up to good stories, well told.

I read the book Stardust a couple of years ago and didn’t re-read it before seeing the movie because sometimes you want to see if the movie will touch the kind of memory you have of the book – and with this movie version, I found it hit all the same notes as the book did, mixing a kind of whimsy with a remarkable wisdom. But mostly there’s that gentle compassion – for the dead brothers (despite their being power-greedy fuckers), for the star, & for the somewhat hapless young man who’s fallen in love with the wrong girl.

The only part I didn’t like was DeNiro’s performance, and that’s mostly because it was one long “poofter” joke. & For that to be in a Gaiman film – who is uncommonly sympathetic to his gay & trans & gender variant characters – it seemed out of character. As “poofter” jokes go, I suppose it was more sympathetic than most.

So go see it. Put aside the arch comments, the snarky sarcasm, the cruel retorts. Go see a story about naivety, stupidity, greed, vanity & ultimately, justice. But mostly go see a story about love, told well.

Not Queer Enough

There’s an event happening in San Francisco (of course) called “Not Queer Enough” on June 27th. Among the speakers are people like Max Wolf Valerio & Julia Serano.

I wish I could be there.

My own feelings of being “not queer enough” I’ve mentioned at various times, usually when I’ve felt shunned at an event or gathering, or been made to feel otherwise square for being married or monogamous or heterosexual. Shoot, I’ve felt “not feminist enough” for being heterosexual & married, too.

& I’m very very certain that plenty of trans people feel “not trans enough.”

But not queer enough? What defines someone as queer? Their politics? Being visibly queer? Their worldview? Their haircut? Who they have sex with?

I don’t know. But I’d like to be in San Francisco that night to hear other people talk about their experiences.

Info about the event below the break.

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Stardust Star Power

The previews for the movie version of Neil Gaiman’s Stardust are showing up on TV now, and I’m nervous & excited about seeing the movie. I love the book – it’s the perfect kind of fractured fairy tale, with a star falling out of the sky only to say “Oh shit,” when she hits the ground. But I’m not really thrilled with all the Big Names appearing in it, but – apparently that sort of thing is what helps a film like this get made at all.

Fingers crossed.

Spiders & Rats

Do you know when everything around you seems to be trying to tell you something? I caught Spiderman 2 on TV the other day, never having seen it in the theatres (because I don’t get around to seeing anything in the theatres), and I really really enjoyed it, except for that bit about him giving up being Spiderman & then deciding to be Spiderman again because it made me think about writing.

Then we went to see Ratatouille the other night – in the theatre, even! – and that was kind of about being what you really are, what you’re really good at. you know, “everyone can write.”

I mean cook.

I was talking with another writer the other day about an essay I was having a hard time getting at & explained that you know, when writing is going well it’s horrible, & when it’s not going well it’s torture.

But the thing about writing that’s the hardest on me is the uncertainty; this freelance life just isn’t good for my body. I want the stability back of having a regular job & a regular paycheck, except then I see movies like Ratatouille or Spiderman 2 and I think that I have to write. Not because I’m a genius, but because I know it’s what I’m supposed to be doing.

I think.

Rachel Kramer Bussel’s She’s on Top

shesontop I’ve been reading the stories in Rachel Kramer Bussel‘s She’s on Top: Erotic Stories of Female Dominance and Male Submission, and quite a few times I had moments while reading when I got really excited: I mean, a whole book dedicated to women demanding and getting the orgasms they wanted! If that isn’t exciting, I don’t know what is.

I suppose I don’t have to point out to my readers that the subtitle makes it clear that we’re dealing with binary gender only. This isn’t Fictionmania. It’s not intended for trans readers per se but what erotica is? There is some genderfuck in it, specifically a story called “Why Can’t I Be You?”. The women on top are all dominating men, most of whom seemed to have heartily throbbing parts.

I don’t say that like it’s a bad thing, because I can’t bring myself to disagree with the notion that A Hard Man is Good to Find. Still, I did get a little tired of all the hard cocks and longed for a story about a guy who was turned on but who couldn’t get it up, or a woman who was so demanding her man lost an erection from performance anxiety – something a little more problematic, or romantic, or embarrassingly funny, even, the way good sex so often is.

But of course erotica can still be sexy even when there are only binary genders involved and even when the strap-ons don’t strap-off. (Imagine!) It was just funny to notice that I’ve become used to more queer, more genderfuck’d, and more extreme kinds of hotness these days. Occasionally even Wile E. Coyote looks back at the cliff he’s just run off, no?

Each of these stories is about a different woman and by a different author, and often it was their brevity that was refreshing, because they did what porn should do: painted the scene & planted the suggestion while letting your own dirty little mind fill in the details. But for those of you who like strong women in heels and hose who know how to give orders – and I know you’re out there! – this book is a long-awaited companion, and highly recommended.

There is one story especially some of you might like – dominance in period clothes, you might call it, but the author called it “Victoria’s Hand,” & it’s intense, playful, sexy, and while historically inaccurate in its terminology, it’s close enough to do the trick. It was hard not to think of Betty having played Algernon in Wilde’s The Importance of Being Earnest while I read it.
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The Fisher King

I just happened to catch that beautiful scene in The Fisher King where love turns Grand Central into a waltzing ballroom. How fantastic a scene that is, probably one of my all-time favorites in movies. But then, it’s one of my favorite movies, too.

Pending Hatefulness

Legislators in Nigeria are trying to make homosexuality illegal:

This bill, titled the Same Sex Marriage Prohibition Bill, includes penalties of five years imprisonment for any individual possessing or purchasing gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender (GLBT) literature or film, subscribing or donating to a GLBT organization, attending GLBT events, or expressing any form of same-sex desire.

I expect that if AIDS is still stigmatized as a “homosexual disease” – as it still is here in the US, depending on who you talk to – this will make treating the disease that much harder, too. & That’s of course in addition to the arrests & harassment LGBT people would expect under a prohibitive ban like that. Imagine, owning my books would be grounds for five years in jail.